Amidst all the rape news flowing inside
out daily, I wonder where exactly the problem lies. Is it the so-called man's
intimidation of women's sexuality or is there any blame which we can put on the
women. India is a country where we were taught to treat all women and girls as
our mother and sisters. And yes this is where I feel the problem in our
people's mindset lie.
A person can symbolise a woman as her mother only when she is like her mother. Similarly a person can consider a stranger girl as his sister only when she is or say she dresses like her own sister. As we are into 21st century, our cultural country has evolved and and has started adopting western society's practices but sadly not all people have done so. And it won't happen so easily.
It’s the problem with our mentality yes 99% of Indian men's mentality. Say a gorgeous lady is walking down the street opposite to us wearing short tight dress, tell me which male person won't give her a second look. Everyone including your brother and your father will, and that is because we are not used to seeing girls dressed up like those on a day to day basis. In fact girls or ladies with short dresses are more seen in B grade or adult movies where it is common to objectify women. In the same case imagine you are in Thailand or any European country many people won't give her a second stare. This is exactly the point of perception that engulfs the men in the society. Yes this is wrong but sadly it is true to a large extent.
Many girls or women would argue to not tell them what to wear instead teach the boys or men how to behave. I can understand their point of view but sadly girls, that's not a true and feasible solution to this evil crime at least in the short run. When the educated and respected people can't stop staring and exploring hot women they see, how can you just imagine the culture-less, uneducated, poor and uncivilised men to control their urge or fantasy when they see a sexy lady.
Many of the educated ones argue what is wrong in seeing or say checking out a girl when we are not doing anything wrong to them. But guys even if you are not doing anything wrong, when you stare at a girl with a lustful thought, you are committing a rape on her in your mind. Many won’t buy this thought process but tell me would u give the same look to your mother or your sisters.? Or to ask in a different way would you be comfortable if your mother and sister are given the same look. Of course not !
Also, it goes without saying that a lot has to do with the legal system in our country. Unlike in some countries where rapists are punished brutally, in India it’s not the case. Here majority of the incidents go unreported and in rest cases the accused escapes the deserved punishment thanks to the loopholes in the system. So in our country a sense of fear has never been created and the so called perverts feel they will get away easily even after doing such heinous crimes. Its high time we adopt brutal punishments for such acts so that every prospective rapist has a fear in his mind of the potential outcome of his act.
The other important thing or perhaps the most important thing is to bring about a change in each and everyone's mentality. When we have moved to 21st century our minds also needs to be transformed. Women should not be objectified and instead start treating them with dignity. In a time when passing a remark on a woman or sharing videos and messages objectifying women in social media is rampant, one should start raising voice against it or if that’s not possible stop supporting and encouraging it. Next time when you see a lady imagine her as your own mother or sister. This change of mentality is the need of the hour. So, if you sincerely feel rape as a curse to the society, do your bit by stopping the habit of exploring.
Admire but don't explore!
A person can symbolise a woman as her mother only when she is like her mother. Similarly a person can consider a stranger girl as his sister only when she is or say she dresses like her own sister. As we are into 21st century, our cultural country has evolved and and has started adopting western society's practices but sadly not all people have done so. And it won't happen so easily.
It’s the problem with our mentality yes 99% of Indian men's mentality. Say a gorgeous lady is walking down the street opposite to us wearing short tight dress, tell me which male person won't give her a second look. Everyone including your brother and your father will, and that is because we are not used to seeing girls dressed up like those on a day to day basis. In fact girls or ladies with short dresses are more seen in B grade or adult movies where it is common to objectify women. In the same case imagine you are in Thailand or any European country many people won't give her a second stare. This is exactly the point of perception that engulfs the men in the society. Yes this is wrong but sadly it is true to a large extent.
Many girls or women would argue to not tell them what to wear instead teach the boys or men how to behave. I can understand their point of view but sadly girls, that's not a true and feasible solution to this evil crime at least in the short run. When the educated and respected people can't stop staring and exploring hot women they see, how can you just imagine the culture-less, uneducated, poor and uncivilised men to control their urge or fantasy when they see a sexy lady.
Many of the educated ones argue what is wrong in seeing or say checking out a girl when we are not doing anything wrong to them. But guys even if you are not doing anything wrong, when you stare at a girl with a lustful thought, you are committing a rape on her in your mind. Many won’t buy this thought process but tell me would u give the same look to your mother or your sisters.? Or to ask in a different way would you be comfortable if your mother and sister are given the same look. Of course not !
Also, it goes without saying that a lot has to do with the legal system in our country. Unlike in some countries where rapists are punished brutally, in India it’s not the case. Here majority of the incidents go unreported and in rest cases the accused escapes the deserved punishment thanks to the loopholes in the system. So in our country a sense of fear has never been created and the so called perverts feel they will get away easily even after doing such heinous crimes. Its high time we adopt brutal punishments for such acts so that every prospective rapist has a fear in his mind of the potential outcome of his act.
The other important thing or perhaps the most important thing is to bring about a change in each and everyone's mentality. When we have moved to 21st century our minds also needs to be transformed. Women should not be objectified and instead start treating them with dignity. In a time when passing a remark on a woman or sharing videos and messages objectifying women in social media is rampant, one should start raising voice against it or if that’s not possible stop supporting and encouraging it. Next time when you see a lady imagine her as your own mother or sister. This change of mentality is the need of the hour. So, if you sincerely feel rape as a curse to the society, do your bit by stopping the habit of exploring.
Admire but don't explore!
-BD (Binoy Devasia)
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